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  • Writer's pictureBrandi Nikkale

Single Woman Romance

Some days I crave the things that I grew up reading about and watching on the big screen.


I crave candlelight and sweet nothings and letters and soft kisses. I crave romance.


Love Jones



The Notebook



Poetic Justice



Brown Sugar




Romance: a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.

One thing that I find myself really craving as a single woman is romance. I find myself missing the excitement and feeling of being loved that comes along with romance. I often miss someone openly liking me and treating me like I'm special. When I am dating as a single woman (I am currently taking a step back from dating to focus on some other priorities), I look forward to that romance from men that I date. That comes in the form of sweet messages, dates, thoughtful gifts, and physical touch.


In the past few months, I have explored the ways in which I can experience romance in my life without dating. I have found ways to experience romance with the people in my life that I love. I started to look at my friendships and familial relationships and the way they offered me romance and I began to be deliberate about giving that same thing back.


When I catch up with my friends and family, I give them my time and attention. While we do not talk daily, when I catch up with my loved ones, we often talk for hours. We celebrate wins. We talk through challenges. We pay compliments. We love on each other.


I go on friend and family dates when I can. In the world of COVID this looks a little different but I make time for Zoom brunches, happy hours, movie nights, FaceTime dates and social distanced coffee dates with the people that I love when we have the time.


I am a big gift giver and I pride myself on the quality of my gift giving. I enjoy sending my loved ones the occasional thoughtful gift and in return, I find that I receive that same energy in return.


Being single does not mean that you are undeserving of romance. Find a way to infuse romance into the relationships that you already have.

Comment below and tell me how you experience romance as a single woman or how you can do so moving forward.


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kimberlymtaylor2012
Sep 14, 2020

This is everything I’m going through right now. I have a 4 year old son and all of the hugs and kisses I desire I give to him. I make sure he knows he’s loved and I have his back through any and everything. I’m not one of those parents that say my son is my king and everything is about him, but I know I’m not alone and he needs me.


My best friend is single and we spend as much time as we can together and we depend on each other emotionally. we have The best talk about love, life, and relationships. We are definitely teaching each other about self love, healthy healing, and real love.

I loved…

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Allante Chapple
Sep 13, 2020

I often sit and daydream about the love and romance we grew up watching and listening to! I seriously struggle to transition to this current style of R&B and love stories we watch now because we were so spoiled with the best of the best during our childhood. I love on myself daily by simply LISTENING to what myself and my body needs. I make space for exactly that. If I need quiet time, isolation, fresh flowers, a massage, hours in a book or binge watching movies or TV shows from my childhood, a glass of wine or good music and whisky, a walk around the botanical garden or getting dressed up and being my own photographer...whatever I need, I…

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Kiara Swanigan
Sep 11, 2020

Romance for me feels like getting dressed and doing my makeup to pronounce my inner and outer beauty, watching self change and being in love with that woman. Appreciating the work of my hand. Most times when I do my makeup, there's is no planned look. But I feel sexy and appreciated as it unfolds. Like...love.

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teedrab07
Sep 10, 2020

I have no clue how I can incorporate romance in this current single season only because when I think of the word, I think of a man being included. In reading your post this week & last, I am learning that I need to unlearn what my idea of this is. I am in desperate need of all the romance & I need to figure out how to disassociate love, romance, & men because it's clear men are just... lol

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